Introducing the Intimacy Map™
Built from 17 years studying intimacy, teaching couples across Europe and integrating insights from neuroscience, psychology and modern relationship science.
Every relationship moves through predictable cycles. The Intimacy Map helps you see where you are, understand why you’ve drifted, and find your way back to each other — emotionally and physically — with practical tools grounded in psychology, neuroscience and years of teaching.
Pre-order open now
£77£127
Pre-order today and join the 4 live Q&A calls with us (first 20 couples only). Module 1 drops 5 August.
In the beginning…
You reached for each other without thinking.
You shared things you hadn’t told anyone else.
Lovemaking was passionate, exciting, spontaneous — and frequent.
You felt seen. Desired. Understood.
Finally, someone truly got you.
But months — or years — later…
You still love each other.
But now most conversations are about shopping, childcare and calendars.
You kiss goodbye.
You sleep beside each other.
Yet somehow, you’ve started living parallel lives.
Nothing dramatic happened.
Life simply took over.
No one plans to become distant. It happens quietly. A promotion. A new baby. Long commutes. Full calendars. Stress.
The relationship doesn’t fall apart. It just becomes practical. Conversations turn into logistics. Affection gets less spontaneous. Intimacy slips down the list — not because love has gone, but because life took over.
Most couples assume this means something is wrong. Usually it doesn’t. It means you’ve reached a stage almost every long-term relationship passes through.
The difference between couples who drift apart and couples who grow closer isn’t luck. It’s knowing how to find their way back.
Same closeness, different doors
Most couples don’t want different things. You reach for the same thing — to feel wanted, safe, and truly close — but you tend to lead through different doors.
Physical door
One partner often feels the distance first as a lack of physical closeness. Touch, desire, being wanted — that’s the door back to feeling connected.
meet in
the middle
Emotional door
The other often feels it first as a lack of emotional closeness. Being understood, feeling safe, being met — that’s their door back.
Here’s the trap: when you’re each waiting for the other to walk through your door first, both of you end up standing in the cold. This course teaches you both doors — so you stop waiting, and start meeting in the middle.
The framework
The question isn’t whether your relationship changes. It’s whether you know where you are when it does.
Over time, every relationship moves through recognisable patterns. The thrill of discovery gives way to familiarity. Responsibilities crowd out spontaneity. Confidence quietly becomes assumption.
None of this means your relationship is failing. It means you’re human.
The Intimacy Map brings together psychology, neuroscience and long-term relationship research into one simple picture. Instead of asking “What’s wrong with us?”, you start asking “Where are we?” That single shift changes everything.
A synthesis of research from leading relationship experts.
Tap a stage to discover where you are
What finding your way back can feel like
Talking because you’re interested in each other — not only because something needs organising.
Coffee going cold because you’re still talking.
Flirting in the kitchen. Reaching for each other without overthinking it.
Touch that feels easy, playful and wanted.
Feeling like lovers and teammates again.
Not a return to the beginning.
Something more conscious, more honest — and built to last.
The Intimacy Map helps you understand where you are, and what will help you move closer again.
Compass · Map
When you join, you both complete a short, in-depth questionnaire. Not a personality test. Not another compatibility quiz. A clear read on where your relationship is right now — so the course meets you exactly where you are.
A guided course that helps you rebuild emotional and physical closeness through practical exercises, honest conversations and a clear path forward.
Together they give you something most couples never have: a shared understanding of where you are, and where you’re going next.
The six-stage Map shows where your relationship is. The five-stop course gives you the route forward.
Inside the course
Five steps, delivered across seven short on-demand video modules on Teachable - around 2-3 hours of video total, plus about 30 minutes of homework per module.
Understand your relationship’s current stage on the Map — together.
The simple science of routine, stress and desire — and what to do about it.
Rebuild emotional closeness and honest conversation without the same old fight.
Playfulness, anticipation and physical closeness — from wanting to being wanted.
Keep from drifting again. A rhythm you can actually sustain.
Honest fit
Your guides
Seventeen years each on the tantric path. More than a decade each teaching. Workshops from London to Jamaica, Copenhagen, Bucharest, Helsinki and St Petersburg. Together seven years — supporting dozens of couples, and living this journey themselves.
“We’ve taught this for over ten years each — and we’ve lived it. Seven years together, still learning.”
Early voices
“Working with Olga helped us reconnect in a completely new way. We learned to communicate with more love, understand each other’s needs, and bring more intimacy and presence into our relationship. We feel closer than ever.”
“Kieran gave me perspectives that would never have occurred to me — and they had an instant impact when I applied them in my relationship. I wish someone had told me these things before. Could have saved me from two divorces.”
“Olga, thank you again for the session. I'm feeling very good - over the moon. I realised so many things, and now I feel able to show my husband what I want.”
“I had a truly transformative and healing experience with Olga. She creates a safe and welcoming space where you instantly feel at ease. Her deep knowledge of women’s wellness is both empowering and healing.”
Be one of the first 20 couples to shape this course.
Everything included
A complete toolkit for the two of you — training videos, workbooks, weekly practice and live sessions — all in one place, on any device.
Put it in perspective
£77, once, for the two of you at the pioneer price. Put that next to almost anything:
A single night in an average hotel
One session with a couples therapist
Dinner for two with a bottle of wine
Ten minutes with a divorce lawyer
The spark is worth more than any of these.
Pioneer launch
Pre-order today. The first module drops on 5 August, then a new module each week, on-demand from the moment it opens.
£77 price ends in:
Course opens 5 August
FIRST-20 SIGN UPS BONUS
Only the first 20 couples get four weekly live sessions with us — real answers to your real questions, in real time. Once these seats are filled, the bonus closes for good.
Price rises to £87 · £97 · £127 in 72-hour steps.
Zero-risk promise
Watch the first modules, do an exercise or two, actually try it in your relationship. If it’s not right for you both, email us within 10 days and we’ll refund every penny. No forms. No awkward questions. No hard feelings.
Pre-ordering? Your 10-day guarantee starts when the course opens on 5 August, not when you pay - so you get the full 10 days once you actually have access.
The only risk is staying stuck. See our refund policy for details.
Questions
You can pre-order now. The first module opens on 5 August, then a new one each week. Once a module drops, it’s yours on-demand.
Around 2–3 hours of video across the whole course, plus about 30 minutes of homework per module.
It works best together. Some activities you do solo first, then share.
No. It’s warm and practical — about closeness and desire, not graphic content.
No. It’s a practical course, not counselling.
Every module released so far is available immediately, on-demand.
The course is hosted on Teachable. You get login access when you join.
A bonus for the first 20 couples to sign up: four weeks of live sessions with Kieran & Olga.
No. The course is open to anyone who feels the approach is relevant to their relationship. However, it has been shaped mainly by our own experience as a heterosexual couple and by the couples we have worked with. Many of the principles around communication, emotional closeness, attraction and rebuilding intimacy are widely applicable. At the same time, we do not want to claim expertise in relationship dynamics outside the areas where we have the most experience. Same-sex couples are very welcome to join, but should know that many of the examples and some of the language reflect heterosexual relationships.
The Intimacy Map shows you the way back. Course open 5 August. Pioneer price £77 for the first 72 hours.
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